Not Accepting Responsibility - Causes Low Self -Respect
Psychologists agree that like food, clothing, and a place to live, etc, everyone needs to be respected. What will you do if you are starving to death but do not have anything to eat? First, you will try finding food and failing, beg. Finally you would not mind stealing or snatching it from others. Why? If I need something badly (as it is a basic need) and cannot get it served internally, I will try getting it externally.
The same is true for emotional needs. Respect is an emotional need. Ideally speaking, If someone holds a high self-image or a feeling of dignity because of their achievements, contribution to the society and good character, their need for respect will be served internally. One will not worry about what others think for one knows one's true self. One will not force others to respect one. Shallow people will have a lower self -respect and lower self- esteem, and thus their need to be respected by others will be higher.
What do you think about the self-respect of the person who intentionally or unintentionally, frequently, tells himself/herself that he/she:
Is of no use
Has lost control over his/her life
Is a failure
Cannot do anything
Is dependent on others for almost everything in his/her life
Cannot take his/her own decisions about own life.
Cannot plan his/her day or life according to his/her own wishes
Obviously, this person will have a very low self-respect. People with high self -esteem are responsible and accountable. They know and admit that:
Yes, some people might be more privileged, but I intend to put more efforts to make up for it.
Yes, I believe our fate is ultimately in our own hands..
Yes, we have no control over whatever happens to us but how we choose to respond to it will ultimately determine the outcome in our lives.
Yee who believe! guard your own souls:
if ye follow (right) guidance no hurt
can come to you from those who stray.
The goal of you all is to Allah: it is He
that will show you the truth of all
that ye do....
