Stop procrastinating.
Most people indulge in procrastinating. In easy words, "putting off" or "postponing" things for some other day, the day when things will be better then they seem today. There is nothing negative about the behavior itself as all of us many times in our lives postpone things, for the "right" time. The bad thing in the case of procrastinators is that "right" time never comes. Procrastinators actually do not postpone things, they continue using it as an excuse for extended period of time, and sometimes throughout their lives for justifying their non-action as the old saying goes ''Tomorrow never comes'' One finds procrastinators living unhappily with hopes, desires, should, and maybes throughout their lives. If you do, you leave yourself at the mercy of other people or the environment and things never go the way you want them to. By doing this what you tell your mind is that you are dependent on others; instead of you controlling your life, your life is controlled or is dependent on things, circumstances and people around you. How could someone become or stay happy with this attitude of life?
It reminds me of one of my client seeking help. For about 30 years of his life, he had been very unhappy with his marriage. However, he waited for things to get better. Things never got so. They became worse, instead. This unhappy marriage cost him his job, health, peace and at times when he visited me, he was suicidal. Throughout his life, he has been putting off to fix undo his relationship with the hopes, desires, and maybes;
If I get this job, it will become better...
If I change the city and take my family away from ''in-laws'', it may become better..
It will become better, if we have a child..
It may become better , if we have another child and my wife becomes busy..
It will become better when children grow up
It will become better if we get settled in Middle East, away from our immediate families.
The Word of Thy Lord doth find its
Fulfillment in truth and in justice:
none can change His Words: for He is
the one who heareth and knoweth all
Unfortunately, it never happened so. When he took charge of his life by putting a stop at procrastination, he was able to fix his shattered life within six months. Now, he is happier, at peace and enjoying his life. Some typical procrastination behaviors I witness in people are:
Stay in the same job, where one is Unhappy
Traying to put on an unhappy marriage
Avoiding a confrontation with a friend or a family member with whom one is unhappy..
Living in a city for the whole life
Quitting any undesirable behavior like smoking, drugs
Deciding to start a walk, exercise, sport or a diet-control program
Using tiredness or sleep as an excuse for not finishing an important piece of work
Using sickness as an excuse to avoid submitting school or office assignment
Using age/children as an excuse to turn away a good job opportunity in any other city.
Using being unclean,late,tired as an excuse for not saying prayers
If you want to change your world, Stop procrastination about what you want to do, just do it. Remember you are powerful enough to take charge of your life and to do anything you may choose to do, without any ''buts'' and ''ifs'' attached..
''no burden do We place on any soul,
but that which it can bear.........
